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    Living Lent

    When did the collision between our appetites and the needs of our souls happen?

    By Barbara Cawthorne Crafton

    February 18, 2024

    Available languages: español

    • Bradley Bahler

      Martha, Martha! Only one thing is needful. Mary has chosen the better part which shall not be taken from her. Better is a dry morsel with quietness, Than a house full of feasting with strife. But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these. things shall be added unto you. Thank you Jesus! 🕊️

    • Paul H Uhl

      When did she see our lives and know what troubles us?

    • Sally

      Beautiful. Thank you.

    • Marion Keller

      And, so this lent is about asking for the grace to clean up my cluttered become less of a physical and emotional horder and begin to let the endless wants be filled with God's's love and His work....So when I let go, let me pass it on to someone else who needs the clothes, the food, the time and the attention. Divesting myself of the stuff and mind clutter is only of value if it frees me to attend to truth, to go deeper and to connect more with the people God sends me to love.


      Dear Lord, thank you for revealing this truth to me. You told the woman by the well to drink the living water that will not make her thirsty again. How foolish I am to seek fulfilment in broken cisterns that hold no water and even if there is water does not satisfy. Fill my cup Lord, come and quench this thirsty of my soul

    • Jennifer

      Each time I read this, I cringe and know, 'This is me.' But I can't change it. Only the grace of the catastrophic quiet times - when all the noise of my own life is knocked silent, and I am forced to acknowledge the still, small voice. This is really all I want.

    • Dr. Edwin Pell Ph.D.

      Thought is good. Action for the starving and hungry needs achievement.

    This piece is excerpted from Bread and Wine: Readings for Lent and Easter.

    We didn’t even know what moderation was. What it felt like. We didn’t just work: we inhaled our jobs, sucked them in, became them. Stayed late, brought work home – it was never enough, though, no matter how much time we put in.

    We didn’t just smoke: we lit up a cigarette, only to realize that we already had one going in the ashtray.

    We ordered things we didn’t need from the shiny catalogs that came to our houses: we ordered three times as much as we could use, and then we ordered three times as much as our children could use.

    We didn’t just eat: we stuffed ourselves. We had gained only three pounds since the previous year, we told ourselves. Three pounds is not a lot. We had gained about that much in each of the twenty-five years since high school. We did not do the math.

    We redid living rooms in which the furniture was not worn out. We threw away clothing that was merely out of style. We drank wine when the label on our prescription said it was dangerous to use alcohol while taking this medication. “They always put that on the label,” we told our children when they asked about this. We saw that they were worried. We knew it was because they loved us and needed us. How innocent they were. We hastened to reassure them: “It doesn’t really hurt if you’re careful.”

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    We felt that it was important to be good to ourselves, and that this meant that it was dangerous to tell ourselves no. About anything, ever. Repression of one’s desires was an unhealthy thing. I work hard, we told ourselves. I deserve a little treat. We treated ourselves every day.

    And if it was dangerous for us to want and not have, it was even more so for our children. They must never know what it is to want something and not have it immediately. It will make them bitter, we told ourselves. So we anticipated their needs and desires. We got them both the doll and the bike. If their grades were good, we got them their own telephones.

    There were times, coming into the house from work or waking early when all was quiet, when we felt uneasy about the sense of entitlement that characterized all our days. When we wondered if fevered overwork and excess of appetite were not two sides of the same coin – or rather, two poles between which we madly slalomed. Probably yes, we decided at these times. Suddenly we saw it all clearly: I am driven by my creatures – my schedule, my work, my possessions, my hungers. I do not drive them; they drive me. Probably yes. Certainly yes. This is how it is. We arose and did twenty sit-ups. The next day the moment had passed; we did none.

    After moments like that, we were awash in self-contempt. You are weak. Self-indulgent. You are spineless about work and about everything else. You set no limits. You will become ineffective. We bridled at that last bit, drew ourselves up to our full heights, insisted defensively on our competence, on the respect we were due because of all our hard work. We looked for others whose lives were similarly overstuffed; we found them. “This is just the way it is,” we said to one another on the train, in the restaurant. “This is modern life. Maybe some people have time to measure things out by teaspoonfuls.” Our voices dripped contempt for those people who had such time. We felt oddly defensive, though no one had accused us of anything. But not me. Not anyone who has a life. I have a life. I work hard. I play hard.

    When did the collision between our appetites and the needs of our souls happen? Was there a heart attack? Did we get laid off from work, one of the thousands certified as extraneous? Did a beloved child become a bored stranger, a marriage fall silent and cold? Or, by some exquisite working of God’s grace, did we just find the courage to look the truth in the eye and, for once, not blink? How did we come to know that we were dying a slow and unacknowledged death? And that the only way back to life was to set all our packages down and begin again, carrying with us only what we really needed?

    We travail. We are heavy laden. Refresh us, O homeless, jobless, possession-less Savior. You came naked, and naked you go. And so it is for us. So it is for all of us.

    From Bread and Wine. Originally published in Living Lent: Meditations for These Forty Days. Copyright ©️ 1998 by the Church Pension Fund. All rights reserved. Used by permission of Church Publishing Incorporated, New York, NY.

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