A little over a year ago, I found myself drawn to an online discussion that has lingered with me since. The subreddit r/MuscularDystrophy had a number of posts on marriage, family, and future planning for couples where one partner has muscular dystrophy. The gist was: I’m in an inter-abled relationship. My partner is bitter, can’t or won’t communicate, can’t or won’t accept help. How do we think about the future? What about having kids?

What should I make of online comments advising me not to pass on my debilitating genetic condition?