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Love the Person You See

Søren Kierkegaard


    Hello Readers My name is Martha Solomon I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster Dr Okpebho which a friend of mine told me about on ( he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony because the man I wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down because our relationship has been on for 4years. I really loved him, but his family was against us and he had no good paying job. So when I met this spell caster, I told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first I was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but I just gave it a try. And within 3 days time when I returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now my husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mum and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it because the spell caster only asked for my name and my boy friends name and all I wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is; you can also contact him for help, I wish you good luck.+23490338746273425

  • Chee

    I found the true love that I have been seeking for when I accepted Jesus Christ. This article reminds me to love everyone I see. Many times when I am dissapointed in others I find it hard to forgive them. It seems like the more I love someone the more I expect from them. This article reveals to me through the scripture that I have been wrong all along. I claim that I love God but how could I when I cannot love those I can see. Thank you.

  • Nicole Solomon

    What an incredibly touching word--and what a challenge! Today, we have so many reasons to feel justified in not loving. These words cut to the very heart. One clear example in this country to not love others is those addicted to drugs. We turn a blind eye to them as completely unworthy of any love and compassion because they are drug addicts. Another clear example of this is towards prostitutes. Here in Georgia, the very center of the Bible belt where every man, woman, and child claims to be a Christian, it is completely justifiable to not only despise, but to hate, illegal immigrants that supposedly have taken employment away from "hard-working Americans." If we ever needed to hear these words--it is now! There is always a justifiable reason to not help someone in need. There is always a justifiable reason to close one's heart to another person. Why? Because no one is perfect. All we have to do is look hard enough and we can always find that excuse to turn a cold shoulder to others. To me what is the challenge is to find a reason to love. Just as the artist who did not even consider himself to be an artist could always see something of beauty in others' faces, that is the challenge I take from this. I have to find a reason to love--and what I have learned is to see Jesus in each person. Jesus came to Earth to become an imperfect human form just as all humans are. So if He walked this Earth in human form, how do we know that each person we meet may not be Him? That is what has changed my life. When I realized that each person I meet was created by God and has something of God in them, then I began to see Jesus in each person I met. Then, I could feel the shame for all the times I looked down on another person because I had what I thought was a justifiable reason to turn a cold heart to them. Because I was turning a cold heart to Jesus. This is so moving to hear. It is a reminder that I need to read every day. If I can only learn to do this simplest of commandments that Jesus directed us to, I could find the peace that passes all understanding: To love God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength, and love my neighbor as myself. How can I turn a cold heart to others if I want others to have compassion on me for all my sins, my faults, my imperfections? Jesus forgave me when I deserved it the very least. He loved me when no one else, including myself, thought that I was worthy of love. So in return, I have to find that reason to love others--always. And that reason is that I can see Jesus in each person. It is all the reason I need to love them unconditionally. That is the challenge to me--to love and love and love. Thank you so much for this article. It speaks so deeply to me.

A renegade philosopher who spent most of his life at odds with the church, Søren Kierkegaard (1813-1855) insisted that every person must find his own way to God.

To love another in spite of his weaknesses and errors and imperfections is not perfect love. No, to love is to find him lovable in spite of and together with his weakness and errors and imperfections. Let us understand each other.

Suppose there were two artists, and the one said, “I have traveled much and seen much in the world, but I have sought in vain to find someone worth painting. I have found no face with such perfection of beauty that I could make up my mind to paint it. In every face I have seen one or another little flaw. Therefore I seek in vain.” Would this indicate that this artist was a great artist? In contrast, the second one said, “Well, I do not pretend to be a very good artist, if one at all; neither have I traveled very much. But remaining in the little circle closest to me, I have not found a face so insignificant or so full of faults that I still could not discern in it a more beautiful side and discover something glorious. Therefore I am happy in the art I practice, though I make no claim to being an artist.” Would this not indicate that precisely this one was the artist, one who by bringing a certain something with him found then and there what the much-traveled artist did not find anywhere in the world, perhaps because he did not bring a certain something with him! Was not the second of the two the real artist?

It is a sad upside-downness, altogether too common, to talk on and on about how the object of love should be before it can be loved. The task is not to find the lovable object, but to find the object before you lovable – whether given or chosen – and to be able to continue finding this one lovable, no matter how that person changes. To love is to love the person one sees. As the apostle John reminds us: “He who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.” (1 John 4:20)

…We foolish people often think that when a person has changed for the worse we are exempted from loving him. What a confusion in language: to be exempt from loving. As if it were a matter of compulsion, a burden one wished to cast away! If this is how you see the person, then you really do not see him; you merely see unworthiness, imperfection, and admit thereby that when you loved him you did not really see him but saw only his excellence and perfections. True love is a matter of loving the very person you see. The emphasis is not on loving the perfections, but on loving the person you see, no matter what perfections or imperfections that person might possess.

He who loves the perfections he sees in a person does not see the person, and thus does not truly love, for such a person ceases to love as soon as the perfections cease. But even when the most distressing changes occur, the person does not thereby cease to be. Love does not vault into heaven, for it comes from heaven and with heaven. It steps down and thereby accomplishes loving the same person throughout all his changes, good or bad, because it sees the same person in all his changes. Human love is always flying after the beloved’s perfections. Christian love, however, loves despite imperfections and weaknesses. In every change love remains with him, loving the person it sees.

Alas, we talk about finding the perfect person in order to love him. Christianity teaches us that the perfect person is the one who limitlessly loves the person he sees. We humans always look upward for the perfect object, but in Christ love looks down to earth and loves the person it sees. If then, you wish to become perfect in love, strive to love the person you see, just as you see him, with all his imperfections and weaknesses. Love him as you see him when he is utterly changed, when he no longer loves you, when he perhaps turns indifferently away or turns to love someone else. Love him as you see him when he betrays and denies you.

Love the person you see and see the person you love.

From Provocations

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Søren Kierkegaard was a Danish philosopher, theologian, poet, social critic, and spiritual writer.

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