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When Prayer is Difficult

Johann Christoph Arnold

An excerpt from Cries from the Heart, available as a free ebook.

 

We all know the story of the children of Israel, who turned to God when they needed him, but ignored him when things were going well. How do we measure up? Poet Kahlil Gibran admonishes: “You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might also pray in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance.”

Abraham Lincoln, conscious of the same spiritual laziness in the United States of his day, proclaimed “a national day of fasting, humiliation, and prayer” in 1863. His words at the time are even truer today than when they were first spoken – a telling comment on our present condition.

We have forgotten God…Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace – too proud to pray to the God who made us! It behooves us, then, to humble ourselves before the offended Power, to confess our national sins, and to pray for clemency and forgiveness.

Too many of us forget God when we are healthy and happy, when we are doing well. But God needs people who carry the depth of their belief out into the world every day, people who not only appeal to him in times of distress, but who pay him homage because they love him.

In the busyness of our lives, we often neglect the things of the spirit, and our relationship with God becomes lukewarm. Rick, a friend who works as a sales manager, tells me:

In my life, being busy is a big obstacle to prayer. There is seemingly so much to do. Society moves at a rapid rate, and stress is more common than the common cold. I find myself caught up in busyness, trying to tackle my to-do list, but missing God. If I am honest, the big to-do list is self-inflicted, and the stress my own fault. The reality of the situation is that letting go of my busyness and turning to God is the only way to have a real life.

There are many things that stand in the way of our relating to God: inner laziness, hypocrisy, pride, lack of faith, self-centeredness. All of these are impediments to a meaningful relationship with God, and therefore require us to take a stand against them. It is a question of deciding what our attitude will be, and then working to stick to that decision.

Insofar as the self pushes for its own way, it hinders the working of God. In each of us there is an unfathomable mass of ideas and emotions that are neither concentrated on God nor at one with his will – this is simply a fact of human nature. And because of it, our prayers will always be burdened by our personal failings and by the weight of self. That is why the Lord’s Prayer says: “Forgive us our sins; deliver us from evil.” - Eberhard Arnold

Many people have experienced that a burdened conscience blocks their communication with God. For example, a woman wrote to me about a Gulf War veteran who told her that he had done terrible things during the war, and that since then he has been unable to pray. He was desperate: “I can’t talk to God anymore. Pray for me, that I can learn to pray again.”

Often a sense of guilt does indeed block our way to God. Yet if we are truly repentant, we will find someone we trust to whom we can speak out our sins and shortcomings. It is true that forgiveness comes from God alone, but an open and honest confession has a mysterious power; through it complete freeing can be given, the soul healed, and the relationship with God restored. As the apostle James advises, “Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” In The Cost of Discipleship, Dietrich Bonhoeffer writes:

No one should be surprised at the difficulty of faith, if there is some part of his life where he is consciously resisting or disobeying the commandments of God. Is there some part of your life that you are refusing to surrender at his behest, some sinful passion, maybe, or some animosity, some hope, perhaps your ambition or your reason? If so, you must not be surprised that you have not received the Holy Spirit, that prayer is difficult, or that your request for faith remains unanswered.

 


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This is a very valid observation about the world today.  Many forget God when things are going well, but turn towards Him in a time of need.  In some ways it is hypocritical and in other ways it is an indictment -as you point out-in our pride as human beings.  As Christians we must never forgot the role the Creator plays in our daily lives and how easy it can be to take it for granted.  It is easy to become self centered and wrapped up in our daily lives, but we should all be vigilant that it can easily be taken away.  Let's not forget the lesson of Job who praised God equally when he was a rich man and as a leper.  For that's the true measure of faith: the ability to recognize and be grateful to the power of God at all times.  Thanks for the reminder, Brother Arnold!

Marlon
Guyana


At times I find it difficult to feel the presence of God and say something mechanically in prayer. Also wishing "praise the Lord" when meeting others also without feeling the inner meaning of the words.  Now when reading this article I felt useful.  Very much useful. Thank you.

Rosemary Antony


I must admit like a spoiled child I too often forget about the Giver while I am engrossed in the blessing.

Tony
Limerick, Ireland

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Cries from the Heart: Stories of Struggle and Hope

by Johann Christoph Arnold

If you've ever felt that praying was like talking to a wall, the last thing you need is another ebook that holds out religion like a good-luck charm. Where has the real God gone? Arnold tells stories about real men and women with very real problems finding strength to face life's challenges. Their experiences - which range from extreme to quite ordinary and universal - will comfort and encourage even the most jaded reader.